I am working with
two brilliant Karelian Bear Dogs. One is 14 months, the other 7 months and they live together with very dedicated owners. Kola, the older boy had 5 months of training under his belt before his “sister” arrived. During my first training session I worked with each dog to determine where to begin. Kona was all business, He understood how to build on what he knew, how to work with the human end of the leash and how to get rewards. Deydan, the 6-mos old approached things differently. Her immature puppy brain flitted from one thing to the next. My session with her went something like; “sit,” look at the cat having fun on the table, “sit,” I’m SITTING, “down,” I’m down, now I’m up, “down,” blank stare, why? “smell these treats,” I’m DOWN…and up again…I think I want to follow you around really, really close…no, maybe I want to go outside now.
All the while, Kola, is watching intently, eyes pleading, “Let me, let me. I can do it!” The owner thinks Kola is the smart one and Deydan is the social butterfly. It is much easier to work with Kola at this stage of the game. But, it isn’t because he is smarter.
I go through this all the time in my personal life with dogs. Every single time I bring a young, green dog in for training I have to take a mental step back and adjust my expectations to avoid frustration. Working with advanced dogs is addicting, with its own intrinsic rewards. Working with green dogs is more of a chore with the promise of rewards down the line.
Patricia McConnell, PhD, has a new book out called, “Love has no Age Limit: Welcoming an Adopted Dog into your Home.” It contains this quote: “Your goal, beyond providing your new dog a safe and stable environment, is to honor him by letting him tell you who he is right now, accepting that, and acting accordingly…Do all you can to see him for who he is NOW, not who he was years ago or who you think he should be.” I would add, do not compare him to the dog you used to have or your older dog that had time with you before your time was divided among one more.
So, with Deydan, we let her show us what she understood of the training she had up to that point, and took into consideration her age and attention span…then built her training from there. She immediately blossomed as soon as we stopped expecting her to perform above her level.
I have worked with thousands of dogs and I can say this without reservation: Misbehavior is nearly always a training problem…our training problem, for which the dog gets blamed. I think it is always good to ask this question of ourselves, “Are my expectations realistic or fair?”

